Asking a girl for a date should be easy but for every young man it seems to be a formidable right of passage. I remember the first time I asked a girl to go out with me. I felt like I needed to ask her permission to ask her out. She liked me so she helped me along and suggested we go see a movie together.
Since then I have been on many dates and I feel like it never gets any easier. But I really understand better now what I need to do when I want to ask a girl to go out with me. First I have to give her a chance to relax around me and decide that she wants to go out with me.
They'll make it easy for a guy if they really want to spend time with him. They'll mention that they don't have anything to do, or they wish someone would ask them out, if they feel they have to be really obvious. But girls can be more subtle than that. They can talk about the things they like to do and then ask you what you like to do. They may express an interest in something you're doing just to give you a chance to invite them along.
I'm not saying you should invite a girl to spend a day rock climbing with you if you think she is really intrigued by that. She may have to back off and give you an excuse if rock climbing is not really what she is interested in. What I am saying is that if you listen carefully the girl is telling you that she likes you and wants to get to know you better.
This is where most guys mess up. We need time to build our confidence before doing anything. Some guys learn early on to just say, "Hey, let's go get a bite to eat at Harry's". Most guys fumble around trying to figure out how not to embarrass themselves. And that's the secret: don't worry about being embarrassed. If you invite a girl to join you for lunch and she says "no" she'll still be flattered. She'll take it as a compliment that you were interested in her.
Don't wait until you're feeling like you're madly in love with the girl and will bust if you don't get into her pants. After 2-3 or three conversations you should be able to see if she likes you because she'll be excited, focused on you, and laughing at your jokes. That's when you just INVITE her to lunch or something.
Instead of asking for a date SUGGEST you spend a little time together. Take it easy and give her time to decide she wants to spend more time with you. And don't end a lunch date or even a full evening date with another request for a date. Wait until the next day. That gives you time to think of something to do.
